1. Why do you want to go to college?
Notice, we did assume that they are going to college. There are lots of reasons why going to college is a wise choice, but it’s important to know HIS or HER reasons. before they apply for college admissions. One answer can be: “to get away from home,” but don’t despair. Most students who are really looking forward to going away, are also really excited to come home during the first school break. If there is no good answer as to why, it may be worth to explore that topic and address whether a gap year is appropriate.
2. What do you want to be doing 5-10 years from now, in your first full-time job?
This is a different way of asking: “What do you want to study in college?” or “What do you want to do when you grow up?” You see, if the sky is the limit, let them dream first. Find out what they really want to become and then work backwards. Maybe they want to help NBA athletes improve their performance, be a sports-doctor, or a be a designer. Soon, I’ll spotlight some amazing people in highlighting how they made their dreams come true!
3. How will you pay for college?
It’s important to talk numbers. College admissions is just the first step and it’s important to address unspoken assumptions. If your son or daughter expects you to pay for college, this is a good time to address that assumption with some facts – like a statement balance from their college savings funds or savings account. You should also address basic terms like “room and board” and understand the cost of school supplies, food, insurance and other expenses that will need to be paid for. It would also require a calculation of how big of a loan to take and what the monthly payment would be 6 months after graduation (the typical grace period).
Knowing what to expect and what you have to face and having the answers to these 3 questions would result in less stress for you and your kid in future.
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